Creating Positive Change in your Life

Change is difficult for many people. Often times our whole identity is wrapped up in what we've learned as children will work for us when dealing with people, allowing us to survive, thrive and fit in. While some people have had to learn to thrive in the midst of change and learned to be adaptable by being open to new ideas and embracing change, many others have had to fight for survival and every table-scrap that came their way. Behavior is learned and it takes work to unlearn and dismantle these old beliefs.

The truth of the matter is that win-win is always possible. When you are able to see beyond the ego and recognize the abundance that is available, people, minds, and ideas come together and can create amazing changes that improve the current scenarios for many, many people. When you work with people who have this abundant and generous attitude, you are uplifted, the team soars, and amazing energy and creativity is unleashed. This is much harder to do, to sustain, and to elevate within others when you encounter individuals driven by the thought of scarcity and competition.

People like Steve Jobs are visionaries that have sought to bring about such shifts in society and in business. One thing I've learned along the way is that it is often better to take the high road. This isn't about judging others as wrong or seeing yourself as better than others. This is about recognizing your truth as to how you wish to BE in the world. Don't compromise your integrity. Don't get caught up in the competition. See the vision, see the outcome, feel the purpose and passion you're driven to offer the world, and give it freely. We all die. You can’t take anything from this life with you. So give what you have to offer the world. What is not given is lost forever.

If your goal is to truly bring about a positive change and serve others, how it is accomplished becomes less important and seeing it accomplished becomes more important. While it may be a blow to your ego when others criticize your inspiration, or someone takes the credit for something you've introduced, holding fast to the benefits for everyone will often soften the sting. You do need to pick and choose those places where you'll offer yourself, the key is to evaluate whether it is serving a common good. When you’re getting compensated for your contributions, gratitude would serve you spirit of peace. If you continually feel abused and stomped on, maybe it is time to move on to a more collaborative team, as well as a more receptive and appreciative audience.

Knowing that you are accomplishing your purpose and living your passion will be reward. In time, it will be recognized. Imposters will eventually be seen and heart & soul will always outlast the mind & ego. Along the way, through the journey that is your life and career, you will need to hold fast to the true inner qualities and nature of the brilliance that is you. Don’t allow these negative experiences to become something that undermines your value. You are not the negative experience. Often times, the negativity we experience from others, is more a reflection of them and less about who you are.

We all have different lenses, different gifts, different wiring, and different experiences. Difference is not something to be judged, it is a gift of diversity that brings the pieces of the puzzle of life together and creates a society, a solution, a technology, etc., together for the benefit of us all. Don’t doubt yourself when others cannot see the vision you see. Keep true, keep your intentions, and you will attract the right support, the right people, and the right opportunities. Lower the ego and aim high the vision.

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How to be more Confident and Increase Self Esteem in Daily Life

I've been coaching for a few years now, and the biggest thing I've learnt - both for me and for my clients - is that inner confidence is the key to it all.

There are all kinds of strategies, ways of thinking, patterns of behavior and practical tips for improving your life and feeling better about yourself, but they're all redundant if the foundation isn't there. That foundation is the real you, the you that you know deep down you are. The trick is that it takes confidence to find that and to bring out who you are – here are the three keys to real inner confidence.

1. Get To Know Your Values

Personal values are a big passion of mine and I often get carried away with myself when I talk about them. I make no apology for that though – they’re one of the most important things you can know about yourself and are vital in getting genuine inner confidence. Your values are ten thousand feet down inside you, right at the very core of who you are; and they’re the building blocks, the foundations and cornerstones for you. A value is something in yourself, in others or in the world that’s most important to you, and could include things like respect, progress, family, fun, nature, achievement or freedom.

Why is it that some people and situations leave you feeling angry, frustrated, demotivated or deflated? It’s because one or more of your values is being denied, suppressed or repressed – and we experience that as a negative experience because it’s denying a fundamental piece of who you are. You know those times when you’ve felt really alive, amazing or buzzing? Those are the times when one or more of your values are being honored, and you can get more of that by living according to them.

Your values are all yours, and no matter what happens, no one can ever take them away. You can have absolute confidence in them because they’re there all the time just waiting for you to notice them and use them. When you get to know your values, you can start to make choices and align your life around them. It’s so simple and it feels amazing because all that really means is that you’re allowing who you are to live in the real world.

2. Trust Yourself

People spend too much time looking for signs that they’re doing the right thing or on the right path. Sometimes we get that by hearing that we’re doing well at work, sometimes it could be encouragement from a friend or loved one, and sometimes we get that feedback by seeing our material wealth or possessions growing.

But rather than looking on the outside for those signs, how about looking on the inside at what you’re telling yourself? How about trusting yourself to do the best thing and make great choices? How about trusting your own insights and using your own intuition? I’ve seen those ideas scare the bejeezus out of people and you know why? Because it makes you accountable and responsible for what you get. If you trust yourself implicitly and you make the wrong choice, you’ve got nobody else to blame.

But the fact is that we all make mistakes and we’ll all continue to make mistakes. So how would it be if you could trust yourself to get through anything and trust yourself to continue making choices that serve you well – even if sometimes you screw up? That’s the kind of trust I’m talking about, and that’s genuine inner confidence.

Start by listening to yourself and noticing what your intuition is telling you. Be aware of that little voice inside you or those gut reactions you get and pay attention to what they’re telling you. Trust yourself to make decisions, trust yourself to adapt and trust that you’re good enough to have, do or be whatever you want. True confidence will follow.

3. Exercise the Muscle

Confidence is a muscle, and like any muscle you need to exercise it so that it doesn’t shrink and waste away. The problem is that unlike your biceps or glutes, which tend to stay in the same place, your confidence muscle can be harder to find. How do you develop your biceps or firm up your glutes? By doing exercises that are designed to work that muscle over a period of time until you see the results you were looking for.

It’s just the same with confidence. Let’s say that you’re the kind of person that doesn’t take many risks, the kind of person who goes through each day doing what needs to be done and doing it well, but not really stretching yourself. You might talk yourself out of doing something because it’s too scary or because you think to yourself ‘I’m not good enough,’ ‘that’s not who I am’ or ‘I don’t really want it anyway.’ That kind of person lives within what they know and what keeps them safe and comfortable. The fewer risks they take, the less confident they need to be and so the less confident they become.

To work your confidence muscle you need to be prepared to take risks – big or small. You need to be willing to stretch yourself in an unfamiliar direction, to try something new or try something in a slightly different way. You need to open yourself up to the possibilities around you and push yourself to increase what you know, what you do and who you are. The more open you are to risk, opportunity and possibility the more confident you need to be, and so the more confidence you’ll develop. That’s your confidence muscle – the question is, what are you going to do to exercise it?"

Improve your life with Will Power Self Control and Determination

Willpower and Self Determination 

Do you ever wonder why you make the same mistakes repeatedly? Have you pondered over why you felt stuck when you tried to change a behavior pattern? Do not feel alone many people are in this same position. Many people have habitual behaviors, and struggle to fight through the negative chaos resulting from the behavior. Often when people desire to change a behavior, they first must make a conscious decision. The final choice is what determines the results. When are ready to make that decision, consider building self-determination and willpower. The combination of strengths will provide you the ability to follow through with your decision and make the changes.

Determination requires a mindful attempt. For instance, if you have a habit of cussing and want to stop using profanity, focus on your determination and willpower. Build your conscious mind so that it triggers you when you do something wrong, such as cuss. Stay focused. Staying focused will help you to build consciousness, determination, and willpower simultaneously.

You have the inner strength to take control of your behaviors. When you make a conscious choice do not let anyone, including you persuade your decision. Learn to say no and mean it. Inside your conscious and subconscious mind are the answers to developing determination, willpower and to take control of your life. One of the best practices to help you retrain your thinking is reflections. Reflect on your inner feelings and thoughts and discover some alternatives to help you change the behaviors that are interrupting your life.

Research the topic self-determination, willpower, and changing behaviors to build up your knowledge. Building knowledge is the answer to finding effective ways to take control of your life. On the Internet, there are many articles, books, CDs, etc filled with information to help you grow. Cleanly becoming aware of barriers to change or the secrets of how to change isn’t enough to bring about change. You have to make a decision and take action to bring about change on your triumph.
Changing behaviors many times is easy when you look inside of you. Many people struggle to give up certain habits, yet despite how many times they try, they often fall back into that pattern of behavior. This is because these people fail to look inward to find answers create new ideas, make new discovers, and find solutions to solve their problems. Those who are not victorious at their attempts to stop a particular behavior recurrently say that they didn’t have the determination to break the habit as an alternative of being self-determined to strengthen their willpower and to accomplish their goals they give in to habit. Other people are successful at giving up certain behaviors. Many of these people are successful because they use strategies that can help them improve their strength of mind. If you want to purge the bad habit, you have to make up your mind to stop and act on your decision. You have to be self-determined, and believe in your capacity to stop. You have to know that stopping something you are adapted to is going to be difficulty, but meaningful.  By focusing on the reasons why stopping a particular behavior can be beneficial to you, you may be able to find the willpower to beat the habit. You have to respect yourself enough to bring about positive changes in your life.

No matter how difficult it may be to ignore your cravings or desires, if you are self-determined, you can beat them. Willpower is the key to change behaviors, but to have willpower, you must first know and like yourself for who you are and be self-reliant enough to stick to behavior patterns that will let you make the positive changes that will lead to your ultimate happiness.